Love seems to be the most magical thing in the world. Many of us like the idea of being in love. We wake up every day and we have never been happier. We met someone and like magic, that someone takes our breath away and before we know it, we are already attached to that person. We all fall in love at one point in our life. That magical feeling you get when you are together with your special someone is too overwhelming; it can leave you breathless. Yes, being in love is the most wonderful feeling but sadly, when we fall out of love, we don’t often see it coming.
When you get lost in love
Love is perhaps one of the most powerful emotions a person can ever experience. It can make you do crazy things. It can give you the most wonderful feeling but it can also make you feel the lowest and most undesirable feelings. At the first stage of a relationship, most couples are too overwhelmed with the feeling of being in love. Do you ever wonder why new relationships seem to be more intense and passionate? This is because both couples are amazed with each other. They discover different things and their love for each other seems to blossom more each day. As the relationship progresses, you become aware of each other’s flaws but instead of backing off, you accept your partner and everything about him/her.
When problems strikes
However, things become more complicated when your relationship reaches a certain point when you begin to get bored with each other’s company and his/her texts become annoying rather than finding it sweet. If you start to notice some differences, do not worry because this is quite normal. Being in a long-term relationship requires you to reach the “comfortable stage”. This is a stage in which you let your partner see your real self and you will not feel shy at all. If you think that your partner doesn’t seem to give importance to your special occasions, relax! Maybe he/she just needs to be reminded. However, you have to take note that there are certain problems in your relationship that need serious attention especially when you feel like you are encountering signs and symptoms that your relationship is headed to Disaster Street.
Signs That Your Relationship is Falling Apart
Sometime, it’s easy to see the writing on the wall but most couples do not want to acknowledge these signs. There are also those instances in which things aren’t so clear. Yes, it’s quite difficult to tell if the relationship is headed to Splitsville but sometimes, the answers are just right in front of you – it’s just needs to be pointed out. So, what are these signs?
Sign #1. Failure to communicate:
Every relationship needs communication. In fact, it is one of the most vital ingredients to make a relationship stronger and longer. The lack of it thereof is a sure sign that your relationship is on its way out. There are a lots of reasons why a person tends to become reserved and withdrawn from his or her partner. Stress from work, too many problems at the same time, mistrust, disrespect and disloyalty are only few of the causes of communication conflict between couples.
Sign #2. Decline in your sex life:
Another thing that plays a vital role in keeping couples together is sex. Having an active sex life is important for a healthy relationship. It connects the couple not just physically, but also emotionally and psychologically at a much deeper level. Sex also helps the couple to release all the negative emotions and stress that they caught from their work and other activities. If you are not sexually satisfying each other, its time you decide why. Sometimes the lack of enthusiasm with sex will make your partner feel rejected.
Sign #3. Indifference:
Contrary to what most people believe, the opposite of love is not hatred; but indifference. This is when your partner comes into your mind and you don’t get any emotion or you don’t have extra thoughts about him/her. Indifference is the real sign that the relationship is over and the love is gone. You may wonder why many relationships still last despite the storms they encountered. Well, that is because there is still love between the couples. But with indifference, there is nothing more that binds the two people who used to love each other.
Sign #4. You don’t see yourself with your partner after a year or more:
Let’s face it, when we get into a relationship, part of us is wishing and praying that they are the one for eternity. At the first phase of the relationship, you build your dreams and plan your future with your partner beside you. But over time, people change and so are your interests. You or your partner may develop new interests which leads to a change in your future plans. These changes may clash with the plans that your future has and when this happens, you may tend to think which of the two is more important to you.
Sign #5. Disagreements turn into major arguments:
Don’t get it wrong, arguing is healthy and keeps the thrill and stimulation in your relationship. But if this becomes a habit and instead of compromising, you tend to yell and scream to each other, then this is no good at all. Our society sees the person who ends the relationship first as the “bad guy”. So as much as possible, people do not want to be the one to spill the break up line. And as a result they will take any lame reasons just to pick fights with their partner hoping that their partner will be the one to end the relationship first.
Your relationship is very important but if it is beyond saving, do not force yourself into it. Sometimes, you should learn to let some things go to make a room for new things to come. After all, life is all about touch and go. Who stays and who leaves, well, it’s for you decide on that.
But if you are uncertain, you should both consult a professional relationship counselor to discuss where your relationship is and if there is any way of saving it.